Resolving Not to Resolve

I’ve always been big on New Year’s resolutions.  I continuously re-evaluate my life and where it’s going throughout the year, but for me this has always been a great time to sit back, look at everything and make plans for the future.


However, this year when I sat down to look at my goals, what was important to me to change in my life and what resolutions I wanted to make for 2013 I realized something that astounded me: my desired goals for 2013 were ALL the same as they were in 2012.


Wait, what?  Did I just sit on the couch eating bonbons in 2012?  Did I watch endless days of TV and ignore the rest of my life?  What happened?  How could I have accomplished nothing?


Oh, my brain raced ahead, taunting me with all that I hadn’t done.  How could I be so lazy?  What was I doing with my life?  How could I just let it all slip by?


The truth is, I did do a lot in 2012.  I got married, which (for those of you who don’t know from experience) is a massive accomplishment requiring weeks and months of planning, hours spent on details and both joys and frustrations to be dealt with along the way.  Shortly after that, my husband and I discovered a recurring mold issue in the apartment we were living in, moved in with some gracious and generous friends, bought a condo, and moved again.  So that quite an unexpected event that kept us hopping for a couple of months.  Apart from these major life changes, I did work on my goals and made a lot of progress on them.


Still, it’s depressing to see the list not changing.  Or perhaps that’s just that inner voice again, trying to tell me that nothing I could ever do would be enough.  How do I shut that voice up?


By moving on.  No matter what my goals were for last year and what they are for this year, the only thing that matters is what action I take next.  Not what I’ve done in the past twelve months.  Not even what I’m going to be doing six months from now.  But what I do next.


And the same goes for you.  I don’t know if you met all your goals in 2012 and have a fresh new slate for 2013 or if you’re like me, realizing that your goals are going to take longer to achieve than you had originally planned.  But I encourage you to keep moving forward, to take that next step.  Every year is what you make out of it, but that’s typically too big a statement for me to handle all at once, so I’m trying to go with every week is what you make out of it.  Maybe it should even be every day, but I don’t want the pressure of having to perform every single day.  I might like a slack day every now and then.


So this year I’m going to keep writing.  I’m going to try to be better about posting this blog routinely.  I’m going to workout some more, and keep trying to turn it into a habit.  I’m going to attempt to eat a little bit better.  And here’s a new one that I’ve been building up the past couple of months:  I’m going to try being nicer to myself.  We’ll see how it goes.


Did you make any New Year’s resolutions?  What are your goals for 2013?

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